By Eileen Scullion
Have you been told you are “too sensitive” and need to “toughen up” or “pull yourself together”?
Or maybe you have been criticised because you “take everything to heart”, you are “too emotional” or that you “think far too deeply”.
I often hear women and men tell me these upsetting comments are made by family, friends, work colleagues and partners and it can leave them feeling painfully crushed.
It can also be reports parents hear about their children from crèche or school and they desperately want to find a way to protect their little one, yet strengthen them at the same time so they can still flourish and enjoy being a child.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with being sensitive and it is in fact a beautiful gift, for many people it can be hard to cope day to day with such intense emotions.
I am delighted to say I work with a lot of wonderful highly sensitive people in my practice and homeopathy has so much support to offer in so many ways.
Sensitivity of Body & MindOne of the most common things I see with sensitive people is that their sensitivity is not just on one level – it usually manifests itself in both the body and the mind.
In homeopathy the mind and body are not viewed as separate. For example someone with a lot of sensitivities to their environment, to allergens or to things they love, will often show a sensitive nature emotionally.
I see people who are hypersensitive to stimuli in their environment such as noise, lights, smells or changes in the weather. In the case of noise, this can lead to sleep problems as the slightest noise will wake them. Light or smell sensitivity can result in headaches, nausea and vomiting too.
Others might be emotionally sensitive and be moved to tears easily, whether from hearing sad stories or news or from hurt feelings.
Compassion and EmpathyHighly sensitive people are very compassionate and have a deep sense of empathy for others. Many women often say they feel things deeply and can feel the pain that someone else is experiencing. Some of my clients explain that they can sense when someone is unwell or feeling depressed and as they don’t have a natural filter between them, they take on the sickness or emotion.
Picking up on the energy and atmosphere when you walk into a room can also be overwhelming. This can leave the person feeling wide open and exposed to all that is going on and leaves them feeling depleted and drained afterwards and needing quiet time to recharge.
Client Marie: Feeling fragileMarie, aged 30 was an art teacher who came to see me because she was allergic to dust, mould, flowers, pollen and perfumes. Her nose ran constantly and she would go through at least 2 packets of tissues per day. She loved flowers but could no longer stand to have them in the house because of the sneezing fits they brought on. She was prone to catching colds, suffered from gland problems, earaches and sinus issues that were often brought on from cold damp weather or draughts and she couldn’t tolerate the wind so needed to keep hear neck and head well wrapped up.
She was very refined, delicate and shy and suffered from a lot of anxiety particularly when trying new things or appearing in public. She was afraid of failing in any new tasks and was inclined to procrastinate instead. She was also emotionally sensitive and would cry easily if she was criticised or reprimanded. She said “I always feel so emotionally fragile. I feel like I could break”. She was very particular and overly conscientious in any tasks she undertook. In fact she could work herself into a state of exhaustion to get it just perfect. She was very creative and loved art and music.
After receiving a remedy selected specific to her needs Marie noticed a huge improvement in her confidence and new situations became less problematic for her. She was less affected by the opinion of others and found herself speaking out more at work. She found it easier to make decisions and felt a new inner strength and courage like she had not known before. As her immune system improved her sensitivity to catching colds and earaches with every draft was greatly reduced and her allergic tendencies and sinus problems diminished over time. She felt she had a great boost in her energy and her stamina to withstand emotional and environmental influences was greatly improved.
Client Leslie: Feeling Unprotected and unsafeLeslie aged 27 was a mother of three children and came to see me because she just felt she couldn’t cope any more. She felt overwhelmed with her responsibilities and simple day to day tasks felt too much. She felt unable to create a healthy distance between herself and people’s problems and emotions, world events and even going shopping was becoming a problem – the lights, noise, sounds and emotions from the shoppers, it all felt like it was crashing in around her. She said it seems to penetrate right through me, I feel naked, it’s like I have no skin. I feel so unprotected and unsafe. I can’t live like this any longer. I am on antidepressants, but it’s still all too much, I feel so ill at ease in the world”. She also suffered from allergies
I prescribed a remedy that matched her symptoms and one month later she returned feeling upbeat and positive. She said it “feels like I have a layer of protection between me and the world now and I can filter out what is mine and what belongs to others”. I can now actually go shopping and enjoy it. Before I was drowning in other people’s feelings but now its like I have developed a new skin to protect me. The depression lifted, her concentration improved and she felt less vulnerable in the world.
How Homeopathy Can HelpHomeopathic treatment is an excellent support for sensitive people who feel it is all becoming too much. It can help strengthen boundaries, help people stay connected to themselves yet not absorb others pain, and it can help offer a protection without losing our vulnerability. It can help increase confidence, reduce anxiety and create a healthy balance physically and emotionally.
It offers a natural approach to boosting the immune system and reducing hypersensitivities to the environment and allergens.
Homeopathic remedies are perfectly suitable for sensitive people to take and are easily tailored to individual needs.